March 17, 2021

Homeschool Socialization – Friends for Homeschoolers

Worried about homeschool socialization? Homeschooling your kids doesn’t mean they won’t get to interact with other kids or that they will be socially awkward. Let me show you how to get social in your homeschool by making homeschool friends, participating in homeschool coops, and social groups for homeschoolers.

Homeschool Socialization

The (Absurd) Socialization Argument

Socialization means to socialize or teach how to behave socially. When people talk about needing to send children to school to be socialized I cringe. We do not send kids to school to learn how we want them to act – most people send them to public school working very hard to make sure that all those social influences remain as small as possible.

My kids will learn all necessary socialization items at home. First, kids learn how to raise their hand, stand in line, follow directions, and be respectful from me, in the library, on the soccer team, and in Sunday school. Then, kids can learn how to interact with not only people that are born within the same 11 months as them, but with younger kids and older adults at home and in the community.

My kids learn how to be pick their own friends based on similar interests and respect like they will do the rest of our lives.

Homeschool Friends

So you are looking for social activities for homeschoolers? There are lots of fun, simple and effective ways to make friends even if you are a homeschooler putting to bed the homeschooling and socialization debate!

Home

I think a lot of people overlook that being part of a family is socialization. You are teaching them how to behave in a social setting. They learn how to take turns, say please and thank you, be respectful, not always get their way, share, wait for their turn to talk, help out, make their voice heard, etc. Home is the most important socialization your kids will ever get!

Community

Teaching kids how to interact in their community is another important part of socialization. These are the skill they will need their entire lives. So take them with you as you:

buy groceries
take food to a neighbor who had a baby
mow an elderly neighbors grass
visit grandparents
check books out at the library
deposit or withdraw money from the bank
mail a package
go to church
serve in your community with a local food pantry or meals on wheels
attend church
play at the park

Friends

This is really what most people when they bring up the argument of socialization. They want to know if your homeschool child is going to know how to make friends. We’ll get to that, but first I want you to think about life as an adult – how much do you interact with friends and in what context. Got it? That is what we are preparing our kids for; not to be full time, never leaving college students.

Besides playing with siblings (which is big in meeting this need), there are lots of ways to help your child learn to make friends, interact with other kids, figure out how to cope with kids they don’t care for, and know how to manage a group setting with peers:

the park – great chance to practice meeting new people, taking turns, leadership, and interacting with others you may not naturally “click” with
church programs – Sunday school, Awana, VBS, and other church programs are a great way to interact with various people of your same age in a controlled setting like school
park district program – great chance to meet other kids with similar interests from a variety of backgrounds
classes – signing up for a class in art, music, gymnastics, Spanish, robotics, etc. is a great way to not only enrich your child’s education, but to interact with other kids
co-op – there are many coops you can find searching online for other homeschools who want to do field-trips, playdates, classes, gym time, etc. with other kids
camp – for those that want to give their kids a chance to develop some independence, they can sign up for summer camp to have an amazing experience with other kids
serving together – kids will make friends with others who also have a heart for serving others
groups – 4H, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, choral, basket ball and band groups are all great ways for kids to have a chance to interact with others their age and develop friendships based on mutual interests
play dates – arranging time to spend with a certain friend or family is a great way to foster deeper, authentic friendships that will last.

Social groups for homeschoolers

To be honest, a lot of homeschoolers find they focus so much on finding lots of fun socialization opportunities for kids that they over due it and eventually have to scale back. And again, thinking back to your relationships, is okay. Most adults interact with their family, those in their community, coworkers, and a couple close friends. Most of us don’t have the big, elaborate social schedule we think kids need!

My goal is to help my kids know how to navigate social situations they will encounter as an adult, to be respectful of all even if they don’t agree, to be able to carry on a conversation with people of all ages, and how to form deep meaningful relationships with others whose company they enjoy.

Homeschooling Resources

Should I Homeschool my child – 5 potentional homeschool pitfalls
25 Reasons why I LOVE Homeschooling
How to choose the right free printable homeschool curriculum
How does homeschooling work – how we homeschool in only 15 hours a week
Homeschool Socialization – is it really a problem?
How to Homeschool for FREE with free homeschool printables
Why Homeschool – a peak at why we homeschool
Take a peak at our Homeschool Room
Homeschool Organization – meet our workbox system
Homeschool Curriculum – what we choose to use each year
Get your homeschool started right with these homeschool ideas
Homeschool attendance sheet and other forms to help you keep organized!
Free Printable School Memory Book

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Beth Gorden

Beth Gorden is the creative multi-tasking creator of 123 Homeschool 4 Me. As a busy homeschooling mother of six, she strives to create hands-on learning activities and worksheets that kids will love to make learning FUN! She has created over 1 million pages of printables to help teach kids ABCs, science, English grammar, history, math, and so much more! Beth is also the creator of 2 additional sites with even more educational activities and FREE printables – www.kindergartenworksheetsandgames.com and www.preschoolplayandlearn.com. Beth studied at the University of Northwestern where she got a double major to make her effective at teaching children while making education FUN!